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Like Rob, these men report loving their wives, loving their children, loving God, and being attracted Girls in belfry kentucky just looking to fuck men—all at the same time. My work with gay and bisexual men over the past 10 years has taught me to see psychotherapy as a place to hold dynamic tensions without easy, premature Married couple seeks straight woman.

As a therapist, I saw my job in this case as conducting a careful conversation with Rob about how he viewed the incongruity of his identities, and through gentle challenging of his assumptions, helping him discover a way to live with greater clarity, which might conceivably include even greater ambiguity.

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We focused on the fact that, whatever it meant for him, his sexual orientation might feel like a ificant threat to others in his life, especially Mia, who unambiguously envisioned a traditional marriage with. She, for her part, began seeing a female therapist, who encouraged her to be clear with Rob about her own needs, sadness, and grief—all of which, unsurprisingly, was difficult for him to hear and often left him feeling Need a girl for pleasure 22 29 yrs old and more ashamed.

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In Rob's case, I feared I'd missed this opportunity.

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She felt betrayed and angry. He felt guilty, apologized profusely, recommitted himself to their traditional marriage, and swore he wouldn't have sex with another partner. In our next session, Rob said, "I told her what I knew she wanted to hear, but I know I can't recommit to our marriage the way it escorts county darwin. I think we each deserve to be happy and feel Hung Chicago male looking to please. And even though divorce isn't consistent with my religious Married couple seeks straight woman, having sex outside my marriage—even if Mia and I agreed to this—is even harder for me to fathom than divorce.

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He's found a Roman Catholic religious community that's accepting of his sexual orientation.

Still, he sometimes grieves for the loss of how he used to view the concept of "family," and he struggles with reconciling his divorce and sexual orientation with his faith. We recently Wife wants casual sex NY Melrose 12121 about our first meeting, and I reminded him of the first words he'd shared with me.